I recently wrote about our realization that Little Deer needed speech therapy. After getting the referral from our pediatrician at LD’s 15-month appointment, the next step was to have her evaluated by a Speech-Language Pathologist. Fortunately, there was a great office of SLP’s just across the street from our pediatrician, so we didn’t have to go too far. Because the SLP we were assigned to only worked in that particular office two days a week, it took about a month before we were able to get an appointment. By the time we went in for her initial evaluation, Little Deer was 16 months old.
Though I usually handle all of Little Deer’s doctors appointments, we decided that it would be helpful if Mr. Deer came to this evaluation as well. That way we could all be on the same page as far as understanding what was going on with Little Deer and what the plan would be in the future. When we walked into her office we were instantly greeted with tons of fun toys, puppets, puzzles, and stuffed animals. I had never seen such a fun waiting room! Normally LD is on high-alert when we walk into a doctor’s office (or anywhere new), but she quickly busied herself playing while we filled out some paperwork.
After waiting a few minutes, our SLP came out to greet us and showed us back to her office. She had a calm, confident, and strong demeanor, and I felt very comfortable talking with her. Once in her office, I sat down in the chair across from her while Mr. Deer and Little Deer sat on the floor together and played with some toys. I’m not sure what it is about this office, but they have the greatest toys. Shape sorters, rainsticks, noise makers… LD was happy as a clam.
The SLP first explained that this initial visit was purely an evaluation of Little Deer’s speech. Since she was so young, this meant mainly asking me questions to get a better understanding of what her speech was like. She asked me to save any narratives or stories for the end.. We then began a detailed questionnaire that had about 100 questions. While we were working through the questionnaire, I saw she was taking notes but also paying attention to what Little Deer was up to. If she babbled something to Mr. Deer or pointed to a toy, the SLP was quick to note it.
After answering all of the questions, she totaled up our scores for three different categories. She then assigned an age range to the scores so we could get a better idea of where LD was at. These were her results:
- Auditory Response/Memory: 14-20 months (within normal limits)
- Receptive Language: 18-20 months (within normal limits)
- Expressive Language: 8-9 months (mild-moderate delay)
It was pretty clear to see where Little Deer needed some help. She did very well listening to us and understanding our commands and conversations, but was lacking in her ability to express herself and respond to us. Yes, she could point at things and yell “dah!” when she needed something, but she wasn’t using real words. And we could never get her to mimic us or respond to us when we would say “can you say _____?” It did hurt a little to know she was behind, but I think we also felt relieved and validated. Lots of people we know kept saying that it wasn’t a big deal and she was just a quiet kid, so it was nice to have a professional agree with us that she was did indeed have a delay in her speech. Now we could finally start taking steps to get Little Deer talking!
Since the SLP agreed that Little Deer would benefit from Speech Therapy, we talked about the plan going forward and decided to set-up weekly appointments. Before we left, our SLP also wanted to give us three strategies to work with Little Deer on at home before our next appointment. They included:
1. Narrating her actions: In order to help Litte Deer be exposed to language more frequently, we started narrating what she was doing. The SLP said that we were to think of ourselves as being a sports announcers. For example, as Little Deer played with her necklaces, we might be saying something like: “Putting the necklace on. Another necklace on. Three necklaces on. All the necklaces off. Necklaces on the floor.” We were to keep the language as simple as possible, and repeat words. If she was stacking blocks, we might say “on” for each block she stacked. At first I thought this strategy would be taxing to carry out, but Mr. Deer and I actually found it to be quite fun. It also really forces you to stay engaged with your child which I enjoyed.
2. Copying her speech: Our SLP said that we really wanted to reward her for making any attempt at speech. So anytime she babbled or tried to speak, we were to mimic back the sound. That would help her realize that we liked when she tried to verbalize things, that we wanted to communicate with her that way. Also, if we knew what she was actually trying to say, we would first mimic back the sound, but then say what the real word was too. If she pointed at the oatmeal box on the shelf and yelled “dah!” we would say “dah… oatmeal. That’s oatmeal.”
3. Requiring verbalization: Oftentimes we just knew what Little Deer wanted us to do in certain situations. If she brought me her necklaces that were tangled, I untangled them. If she brought me her empty water cup, I filled it. Now we were to require LD to make some sort of sound or verbalization before we carried out an action that she wanted. At meal times she would point to her food to ask for a bite, and I would repeatedly ask “would you like more?” Eventually she started making a little “ma” sound, and I would respond with “ma… more. Here’s more food. Good job!”
By following these three simple strategies after our initial evaluation, we saw tremendous improvement in Little Deer’s speech. Quite frankly, we were blown away. Within about a day she was asking for food by saying “more.” It sounds more like “mooooooowe” but still, it was pretty darn close! Mr. Deer and I were over-the-moon excited. Like I mentioned earlier, we had also never been able to get her to mimic us when we tried to get her to say a word. After she learned “more” she quickly caught on that she should try and respond to us when we asked her “can you say ______?” It was so fun to hear her sweet voice begin to try and say real words! Over the next week she learned to say: more, hi, bye bye, and dada.
We are now several weeks into therapy, and it is going great. Hearing her sweet voice makes me so excited each and every day. Just this morning Little Deer and I waved at each other and said “hi” back and forth from across the room about 50 times. I definitely teared-up a bit. I’m sure one day when she’s running around speaking in full sentences the charm will begin to wear, but for now, it’s awesome. I’m excited to watch her speech continue to grow in the coming weeks and months, and I look forward to sharing this journey and the strategies we learn along the way with you all.
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Whether a baby or a toddler, how was it to finally hear your child say their first word?
blogger / grapefruit / 4836 posts
Whew…we are about week from this same process I think. LL is only saying a couple words (he will be 15 months on Sunday) and really we are the only ones who can tell what they are (except Guck, which is most definitely “truck”
The drs said they weren’t worried at 12 months when he wasn’t saying anything at all, but I think I am going to push for an evaluation this time. Thanks for sharing the strategies with us! I need to do more of requiring him to ask for things…it’s just so hard when I don’t know if he CAN ask, ya know? I think I definitely need to give a bit more wait time. Sometimes I am in too much of a hurry I think.
wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts
Thanks so much for posting about this!!! I’m not positive that Xander is technically behind, but he definitely doesn’t have a lot of words and doesn’t seem to try to mimic us either. I’m going to try some of your tips on him!
blogger / eggplant / 11551 posts
So glad to hear it’s going well, and that LD is improving already! Great tips!
blogger / clementine / 750 posts
This made me cry; how remarkable that she’s speaking now after just a few weeks and some simple tweaks in your everyday life! My little one babbles and says words here and there—like @Mrs. Lion, she’ll be 15 months soon (two weeks!), so the strategies you mentioned can still come in handy for us!
pomegranate / 3225 posts
awww, thank you for sharing! These strategies are great!
GOLD / wonderful coconut / 33402 posts
I don’t think R is technically behind but I don’t think she is where she should be. 90% of the time she babbles. She will say Dada all day long but not that Daddy is Dada. Mo (more) is the only word she regularly will say.
I am going to use your tips and see if that helps before her 15 month appt. in a couple weeks.
coffee bean / 49 posts
So happy to read that Little Deer did well at the evaluation and you’ve seen some pretty significant changes since! I am so excited for you– and completely understand the joy in something so simple as hearing “hi!” 50 times. My daughter has definitely had–or is in the midst of–the “language explosion” I read about long ago. We’re not yet done with our initial early intervention program, but thankfully we’ll be exiting out shortly. She has gone from about 5 words and 4 signs six months ago to over 100 words and speaking in short sentences now at 26 months! It is amazing, and so much fun witnessing this change. Hang in there, and please keep posting. I know the anxiety that you have probably been feeling and wished that there was someone out there blogging about it when I was experiencing it. Good luck and thanks again for sharing!
nectarine / 2631 posts
YAY! This is so great to hear. I feel like lil B is behind- specifically in the same area. Little B babbles all day long but the only thing he will say is mama- so we are waiting for our 14 month appointment to bring it up with the pediatrician. I will be taking the tips you gave above am implementing them in our everyday life though! Thanks for such a great post!
blogger / pomegranate / 3491 posts
Go Littel Deer go! So glad the guidance you guys are getting is really helping – those Hi’s must be amazing
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21616 posts
Wow!! This is amazing – the SLP sounds like an amazing fit and I’m stunned at how quickly you’ve seen results! The tips were great – even for just anybody. Thanks for sharing and I’m so glad that you are making such great progress with Little Deer!
pineapple / 12053 posts
thanks for the tips! we’re going to wait to see where she’s at for her 18 month appt, but in the meantime, i’m going to try these out. i’m really bad at narrating, but it’s awesome to hear that you saw improvement so quickly!
pomelo / 5628 posts
I was actually kind of surprised to here that her receptive was delayed based on what you described. My lo is just slightly older, but he’s pretty much in the same boat. He just recently learned to respond to questions. The first couple of times he said cow or moo, now it’s just “aah” to any question we asked which is kind of frustrating. And I’m pretty sure I’m already doing what your SLP suggests which is good to know… I’ll have to see what my Ped thinks.
pear / 1696 posts
Thanks for sharing about this. I have enjoyed your posts on this topic as well as Mrs. Chocolate’s about Early Intervention. My LO (12 months) just had his EI evaluation today, and it turns out he does qualify for services for his delayed physical/motor skills. Everyone keep telling me he seems perfectly normal. But I just knew somehting was up. So although it hurts to hear your child is delayed, it am a firm believer in getting things evaluated and getting help, versus the old school “wait and see” method. Glad your LD is seeing improvement so soon. We’ll hope for the same after our first PT session next week!
blogger / persimmon / 1398 posts
Wow! What a great update! I’m thrilled you have seen progress so quickly too… That’s wonderful!
pomegranate / 3401 posts
Thank you so much for sharing this. My LO is 15 months and although she does quite a bit of babbling, she doesn’t really have any words yet other than “mama” (and even then I don’t think she really says it with intention). I’m going to try your exercises and if I don’t see improvement soon I’m definitely going to push for intervention!
clementine / 750 posts
This is good information, My 16 month old only has about three words and dosen’t point much. At our 15 month first the Pedi was concerned on the pointing thing. I guess we’ll see what the Pedi says at the 18 month visit. I think we might have an issue but my husband pooh poohs it.