When we found out that Baby Blue was on the way, one of the first tasks on the to-do list was to schedule my first OB appointment. I’d only been to one appointment with a OBGYN since I moved back, and I had no idea how he stacked up as an OB. I simply knew that I loved his staff, he had good bedside manner, and he was affiliated with the hospital where I preferred to deliver.
Because I’m a nervous first-time preggie, I touched base with a trusted friend in the medical profession to see who she recommended. The first doctor on her list happened to be the one I had gone to-victory! So, I called Dr. Casanova to set up an appointment. (Seriously, that’s his real name–best name ever for an OBGYN! It totally annoys Mr. Blue when I say I’m off for a date with Casanova. Hehe.) Much to my dismay, I got the worst receptionist ever. She told me Dr. Casanova was not accepting OB patients. After explaining, that I was already a patient, she grudgingly said I could have him as my OB, but “you’ll probably never get to see him.”
On that pleasant note, I decided to hold off scheduling anything until I could rethink. I called Dr. No. 2 on my friend’s list and . . . she wasn’t accepting new patients. I got a recommendation from her office for another OB, who thankfully, was accepting new patients and scheduled my first appointment for when I would be 6 weeks. My first appointment was to include bloodwork and paperwork and they told me they usually schedule the next appointment with the doctor a couple weeks later.
I arrived at the first appointment only to learn that I wouldn’t be meeting with the nurse, which made me a little unhappy as I had a slew of pregnancy questions that I desperately wanted to ask. The next disappointment was that I couldn’t see the doctor until between my 12th and 13th week, when I would also have my first ultrasound. I was really hoping to have an ultrasound earlier to verify that everything was okay, but not even meeting the doctor until the 12th week really rubbed me wrong. What if I met her and we didn’t click and I had to start over trying to find a new OB after my first trimester. I decided to stick with the doctor because I simply didn’t know who else to call, and I felt strangely guilty about doctor hopping.
The situation kept eating away at me and on a whim, I called my original doctor’s office again. This time I got the usual sweet office staff, who said I could of course see my doctor. He is extremely busy, so sometimes I might have to see one of the other OBs. If I got tired of getting bumped, I could change to any doctor in the practice at any point during the pregnancy.
This was perfect as far as I was concerned. I could see the doctor I already knew I liked, and I would have an opportunity to see some of the other doctors and know who I felt most comfortable with if I decided to switch. Furthermore, they worked me in that day to meet with the nurse for an initial appointment. She was fantastic and answered all my crazy questions and let me talk to the nurse practitioner whom I LOVE and saw for my yearly exams during law school–another huge reason I wanted to go to this practice if possible. The NP gave me a prescription for Zofran to take on days I’m in trial, which relieved one big pregnancy worry: throwing up in the middle of court!
Not only were they quick to get me in initially, but they scheduled our first ultrasound for two weeks after my appointment. I’ll have another appointment with the NP for a full exam and to hear the heartbeat at 10 weeks, and then meet with Dr. C at the next appointment. While I won’t be seeing Dr. C himself any sooner than I would have seen the other doctor, I feel 100% better about the situation. I know and like the doctor. I love the NP and nurses. My first ultrasound was scheduled 4 weeks earlier than it would have been, which meant we found out about our twins a month earlier. And last, but not least, I get to deliver in my preferred hospital!
Lessons learned:
– Don’t be afraid to switch doctors if you feel uncomfortable. My stress level is so much better being back with the doctor I originally wanted to see and with whom I knew I felt comfortable.
– Don’t let pregnancy hormones push you into a decision that’s not right for you. When I first called and the receptionist tried to make it seem like I would be wasting my time scheduling with Dr. C, I freaked out because I felt like I had to know right then who my doctor would be. I should have pushed back with the receptionist then or just taken a day and called back to make sure I understood the situation.
– Trust your instincts. Maybe it was just new mommy nerves, but I felt really uncomfortable waiting until 12 weeks for an ultrasound. Now, we know that the ultrasound revealed twins, and the perinatologist told us it was a very good thing to learn about our type of twins so early. Finding out early helps our doctors be able to watch for TTTS and diagnose and treat early if it begins to happen.
How did you choose your OB? Did you switch OBs at any point?
persimmon / 1205 posts
I still can’t believe you are having twins!!!
I received multiple recommendations from my friends at the gym and I have to say I love my new OB and her entire office. I will be with them for a long, long, time! Glad things worked out for you.
pomegranate / 3414 posts
I asked my co-worker who she saw and if she liked him. She had had a late pregnancy loss but still felt comfortable with him so I took that as a good sign. I scheduled an appointment for an annual exam and have been happy with him ever since.
honeydew / 7504 posts
I am so thrilled with my doctor’s office. I basically found them by looking up participating providers with my insurance and then comparing names to reviews online. I have been going there for a few yeas, and have loved all the staff I’ve encountered. So when it came time to choosing an OB, I didn’t really even consider changing. Turns out, even though there are 8 or 9 doctors in the practice, only 5 do deliveries. The office makes sure that I’ll see each of those 5 doctors throughout my pregnancy so that I won’t be seeing a complete stranger when I go in to deliver.
GOLD / wonderful coconut / 33402 posts
I have been going to my doctor for 10 years now. I found her through my insurance. A couple years ago I figured out that two friends go to the same practice. Both said great things about they were treated during their pregnancies. After 28 (I think) I will start rotating to see all the doctors in the practice. Since who knows who will be on call when I go into labor. I am actually seeing another doctor next week since my doctor was out that day. So getting one out of the way early!
grapefruit / 4235 posts
I’m glad you got things settled! I have been seeing “My” OB/GYN for years now, but when you’re pregnant the practice rotates you around all of the doctors/midwives in the practice from the 1st appointment of your pregnancy.
admin / wonderful grape / 20724 posts
Clever use of delimma!
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21628 posts
I’m glad you were able to get an appointment with your original doctor.
bananas / 9229 posts
Although I’m not pregnant (or even trying yet), I’ve been thinking about this recently… I’ve been going to my doctor for about 3 years now, I think? For the most part, I really like her. I just went for my annual exam earlier this month. I brought about TTC and anything I needed to know or do beforehand. She was really fast with it all. I suppose there’s not much of a point to get too detailed when we’re not even trying yet. I went home wondering if she’s the right doctor to stay with when pregnant. My husband nicely reminded me that I have high standards and expect a lot (true…). I think at this point I’m going to wait and see what happens when I actually am pregnant. For all I know, she could be totally different and all of this paranoia was for nothing!
GOLD / wonderful olive / 19030 posts
Casanova is a great doctor name, I think mine is a pretty good OBGYN name as well “Lovegrove” seriously does it get any better than that?
pomegranate / 3053 posts
I looked up our area’s top doctors list and found a practice that had great reviews all around and it was just luck that it was just 5 minutes from our house. I initially made my appointment with the only female OB there b/c I didn’t want to see a male OB but she wasn’t available and my OB was so I saw him. I absolutely loved him! He has the best bedside manners and never makes you feel nervous about anything. The other two doctors in the practice is good too but he is my favorite. Plus, he’s seen me through everything so I’m sticking with him.
I’m glad that you ended up with the doctor you liked. It makes a huge difference. And, congrats on twins!
pea / 19 posts
Thank you for sharing your story! It is so important to make sure you are with the right doctor/practice. I am 34 weeks pregnant and actually switched doctors 3 weeks ago! I had been with my old practice for 7 years but over that time they have been through lots of changes. In fact, my doctor left last year so when I found out I was pregnant that news was broken to me. The new doctor was really nice so I felt comfortable staying, but once I completed my 1st trimester I was told that I would no longer be seeing her and instead would be seeing these 3 other doctors. I was worried about that because I had established a relationship with this doctor and like you, felt guilty for switching if I didn’t like the new doctors. Well, after many issues with office staff and the doctors not relaying extremely important information to me regarding my health I finally had a breakdown at 31 weeks and decided to switch. I called my doula and some friends for recommendations and then checked each doctor out online for reviews. So far I have had 2 appointments with my new practice and both doctors have been amazing! As a first time mom I didn’t know what to expect and thought maybe I was expecting too much, but now I know that was not the case. I am confident I made the right decision and feel much more comfortable attempting a natural/hypnobirth with the medical support I now have.
honeydew / 7968 posts
Wow, twins! Congrats! Tiring, but twice more love!